Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
I am a stay at home mom.
I worked from high school graduation(1988) until the spring of 2001. I enjoyed working. I enjoyed the interaction with people, and I enjoyed the paycheck.
When I got married, I was without a job for a couple of months and then, by the grace of God, got a job in our little tiny town. It wasn't a job I loved. In fact, I loathed the job. But the people made it worth getting up each day. I loved the people I worked with. A couple of the phrases I use often are from people I worked with there. (my favorite is, I'm as happy as a fat girl at the prom! Just happy to be here!)
I quit working when I went on bed rest with the twins about a month before I had them. Samuel spent his first 3 1/2 years in daycare. Good daycares. Good people taking care of my baby. I was and am thankful that God put us in the right places at the right times in order for him to be cared for by such loving and dear women.
My mother didn't work a full time 8-5 job when I was growing up. From the time I was in kindergarten (which is my earliest memory) until I was in high school, my mom was home when I got home from school. I didn't treasure that like I should have. These days there are so many children that go home from school and stay by themselves for hours before a parent shows up. I'm thankful that that wasn't my situation.
When I quit my job in 2001 I never went back to work. Our goal in 1998 was for me to stay home, but I had been working for so long I just didn't know any other way to live. I was friends with a girl that said she was a better mother because she worked, I believed that about me too.
And then I stopped working. And then I began teaching my children at home. These were both foreign ideas to me.
But, I wouldn't trade these years for anything. Sure, there are days I would love to send my children to public school and spend some time by myself. Sure there are days when I would like to put on some dress clothes, work and help support our family. But overall? No way!
Staying at home frees me up to be with my children. One on one. Four on one. I see them learn to read, write, multiply, divide, write stories, converse about the civil war. But please don't think for a minute that I'm staying home making my own peanut butter. I'm active in the church, the community, I have ordered more baseball uniforms for teams than I care to admit.
I don't watch tv all day. I do read. I sometimes clip coupons, because I like to get things cheaply. I don't sew. I do cook most every night. I don't wear pj's all day. I do take a shower daily. I do have my own vehicle. My house isn't real clean or clutter-free. My kids have cold breakfasts most days.
I'm by no means a perfect parent. I'm by no means a perfect stay-at-home mom. I don't have an etsy shop, I don't take pictures, I do absolutely nothing, except sell clothes at a consignment sale and a resale shop, to bring in any money to my family. And we are the poorer for it.
But I don't need money to make me happy. Sure, it would be great to have more money than we have. Sure, it would be great to have new furniture, name brand clothes, and a house to call my own. But those things aren't what make me tick. My family is. And I wouldn't trade it for anything.
God and I used to have long talks about me staying at home. I used to want to go and do all the time. But I asked Him to help me to love being at home, being a mom, being a teacher of my children. And He did, He does daily. He really is great!
Can you believe that Abby and I are even related? Gotta love it!!!
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Friday, March 26, 2010
Kelly is doing Show Us Your Life-Cleaning Tips today and the funny thing is I was going to write something about cleaning soon anyway.
Not cleaning TIPS really, but it'll work.
I've been married for 16 years. I've been a stay-at-home-mom for 9 years. And nothing makes me feel more like a wife and mom than when I buy cleaning products.
Weird, isn't it?
I've had children, bought them clothes and shoes, cooked countless dinners and washed an unbelievable amount of clothes, but when I buy cleaning products I feel like a wife and mom?
I love buying Lysol 4-in-1 spray. I use this on everything!
The Mr. Clean Magic Eraser. Well, its just the best thing ever! I don't even care that it bleaches the paint on my walls, it gets the grossest stuff off of everything! And I mean everything. (You should see my van!)
The Works shower cleaner is the greatest thing I've found for my shower. But Dollar General has stopped selling it and I'm mad about it. Mad I tell you.
I don't like to clean. I don't like it at all.
I like a clean house, but I just can't seem to do it. I mop about twice a week and vacuum and sweep just about everyday. And if you were to come to my house at any given time you wouldn't think I had done any of those things lately.
I blame it on the kids. What will I blame it on when they leave the house in 5-13 years???
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
The music is now turned 0ff of the blog so you can now hear the videos!
Because I have learned how to finally use my videos on here, you are getting videos 2 days in a row. I know, I know, you are thrilled. ha. Henry is talking up a storm. I wish I knew what he is telling us!
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Henry experienced his first turn in his Johnny Jump Up last night. He was not real sure about it. His Daddy used it as a swing and he seemed to like that. I love that he is getting big enough to explore all his little play things. He is a little weed, I tell ya!
Monday, March 22, 2010
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Stephen performed the ceremony, I sat in the sound booth and my children sat on the back row of the church.
I couldn't help, as I watched the wedding, listening to the music, watching them exchange vows, but think that in as short as 10 years Stephen and I could be experiencing a wedding from a different point of view.
We have four children, we could have four weddings. Thankfully, 3 rehersal dinners and 1 wedding. God is so wise!
Not ugly cried, you know, wedding cried.
How is it that the day before I got on to my children so loudly that they were afraid my head may come off when it got through spinning? And today I cried thinking and knowing that we will have to let go of them one day. Not only let go but give them to someone else.
I'm praying for the spouses of my children and I'm praying for me. That I will be a mother-in-law that is encouragin, loving and not-in-the-way and filled with so many other qualities that I am assured God will give me.
Don't forget to pray for your childrens spouses. It doesn't matter if they haven't even met yet or if they've been married for 16 1/2 years. You may be the only one praying for that person today. What a testimony you will be able to give that special one one day. Telling them that you have prayed for them for years. It could be their greatest gift.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
(And yes...this image is cracking me up...I loved it too much not too post)
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
Please be sure to look at the post following this one. Henry is so very cute!!!
Yesterday I was feeling sickly. I had been up in the night and as I was teaching school I knew that there was a kidney stone among us.
I've had three and would like to never have to go through that pain again. I would much rather go through labor!
I ran to the store and picked up some food items we would need to get through the day, went to church to tell Stephen that I seemed to have a kidney stone and then headed home. I told the kids what was happening and asked them to help de-clutter the living room a bit. I was afraid that if I had to go to the hospital the house would be a mess for whoever was going to have to come watch the kids.
While I was putting a load of laundry in the washer, the boys got my pillow and a blanket and laid them on the couch for me. They also put my favorite "sick time" movie in for us to all watch together. Samuel answered the phone and didn't allow anyone to talk to me. My lunch was fixed for me, water bottles were brought to me to drink and the kids were quiet so that I could rest.
Last night was a busy night, we had two ballgames and an Eagle Scout Ceremony for Lukas to attend. Stephen couldn't be at the ballgames so I had to go. It was the last night of the season so it was a must-go!
I hurt a bit while at Samuel's game, but by the time it was over I was feeling much better.
I haven't felt bad since. The kids didn't know that this morning though. So they brought me breakfast in bed. Thankfully I had no olives or pickles in the house so breakfast was a little more traditional, waffles, toast and oranges. And a card of course.
My children may get on my nerves, and I may get on their nerves. But when I'm feeling down they are right by my side ready to help me get better.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Friday, March 12, 2010
The boys have completed their spelling books so now I'm just picking words I think they need to know how to spell.
A couple of weeks ago they had to spell palindrome and another word that I can't remember how to spell and I can't find the spell check for blogger. And I'm afraid to ask the boys. I'm afraid they won't remember and that will make me feel like a very bad teacher. And who wants that really?!!
So today I reminded them that they had a spelling test and they needed to study for it. Daniel comes in with his walkie talkie and begins talking to David. (David is in the recliner in the living room reading a book under a blanket, he can see Daniel giving him the words over the walkie-talkie)
Daniel " David, the first word is appreciate"
David " a-p-p-r-e-c-i-a-t-e"
Daniel "good!" " next word, sincerely"
David " s-i-n-c-e-r-l-y"
Daniel " no its, s-i-n-c-e-r-E-l-y"
David " oh, ok Thanks!"
I laughed and laughed!
I could hardly understand David over the walkie talkies but Daniel had no trouble at all. They were so sweet to each other.
I know I just listed two words. They have more than two words for their spelling tests. I promise!
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Which reminds me of the beach. And the fact that we will not be going to the beach this year. We will be going to Florida but we are on a quest to see Mickey and Snow White. Not the white sandy beaches and cool Gulf water.
Ok, I can't talk about that anymore or I'll be sad the rest of the day. And today is sunny and warm and calls for happy thoughts. Not thoughts about not going to the beach.
I think today we will do school outside and maybe have a picnic. Which makes me ask the question. How is it that picnics are supposed to be so much fun when they are such hard work? I have to try to figure out what the picnic food should be and then get everything together. I mean everything. Napkins, drinks, plates, food, ketchup, mustard, trash sacks, baggies, and toys. I think I've talked myself out of the picnic. Maybe we'll just go to the park after we eat.
What are you doing today?
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Sunday, March 7, 2010
Friday, March 5, 2010
6:15 - alarm goes off. I turn it off and convince myself that 5 more minutes will be fine and close my eyes.
6:20 - I get up and start getting dressed. It is a lot more of a rush than BH (before Henry) and there is no more thinking "does this look cute or not"...we just go with it and hope for the best.
6:40- I bring Henry to my bed so I can hear him if he chooses to cry and wake up while I am in my bathroom beautifying myself. He loves to be on Mama's pillow :)
6:50 - I make a smoothie for breakfast and get my things together for the day
7:00- I give Henry all my kisses and then get him dressed for the day. We then love on each other a bit more.
7:15- Henry goes in his car seat and we head out to start our day.
7:30 - Henry arrives at daycare and sees his little friends and sweet teachers.
7:40 - I leave daycare and head to work to see my little friends and start my day. I usually call my Mama, Randall or my sister on my drive in.
8:00- I take off my mama hat and put on my marketing hat for the next 9 hours. I coordinate all the marketing for our healthcare system which means meetings, phone calls, emails galore, errands, events, community involvement, and a fire extingusher for the fires I put out all day.
5:00 - The whistle blows and I race for home or daycare, depending on if Randall is in town. If he is in town, he picks up Henry about 4:00 and I get to head straight home. I like those days. If not, I go to daycare and get my baby boy.
5:20- I walk in the door and get Henry out of his car seat and we chill for a few minutes.
5:45- I decide I might need to eat or the chance might pass me by for the night. I used to cook and make nice meals. That has not happened since I started work. I must work on this and let the Healthy Choice Steamers take a rest. They are all beginning to taste alike.
6:00 - I put Henry in his bouncey seat and carry it with me to the kitchen to wash bottles and the blender from my smoothie I made before work. We then get everything ready for his 3 bottles he will have before we leave for daycare the following morning. We then get everything ready for his bath (he takes it in the kitchen).
6:30 - We go back to the back of the house and let mama take her work clothes off and get comfy.
6:40- We go back to the den and let Henry play a bit.
7:00 - Henry eats and then gets his bath.
7:45-10:00- Henry will sit in my lap or Randall's lap, play a bit and fall asleep. I will veg out, shower, read a mag, watch a show, do laundry, and some nights I get on Facebook
10:00 - Henry gets fed and lights out for everyone...we are dead tired by this time.
4:00 - Henry decides he needs to eat and cries out for his 4 ounces of goodness. I get up and feed that sweet boy and put him right back down.
4:20 - I go back to bed with hopes that maybe the next 2 hours will be quality sleep.
6:15 - We do it again!
7:00-The boys wake up. They used to set their alarms for 7:00. I stopped that! I didn't like hearing an alarm clock first thing in the morning. (I'm a tad bit spoiled)
Sometime after 7:00- Anna comes and gets in bed with us. We watch tv, flipping from GMA, to Today and Cosby Show.
8:00(ish)-I head to the kitchen, unload the dishwasher, put the first load of laundry in, tell the kids whats for breakfast, sometimes its a hot breakfast prepared by me, sometimes its a cold breakfast prepared by them, and go to the office. There I get on the computer and get ready for the days lessons.
9:00(ish)-I yell "ITS TIME FOR SCHOOL", the kids come in and we begin our school day. I'll give you a run down of our school day in another post. I put a load of laundry in the dryer and one in the washer.
11:45- The boys start asking whats for lunch. This question really gets on my nerves.
12:00- Lunch gets started. Sometimes I fix lunch, other times each child fixes his/her own lunch. It is usually the latter.
1:00-4:00- If school wasn't completed in the morning we finish now. I run errands, clean the house, take a shower, finish laundry, visit with friends, discipline children, go to the library, make plans for the upcoming days, plan supper, do stuff with the kids.
4:00-Begin supper preperations and fold clothes. I try to watch some tv.
5:00 Stephen comes home from work.
5:30(ish) We eat supper.
6:00-We head to ballgames, ball practice, boy scout meetings, church, or anything else we have scheduled for the night. If we are at home we watch tv, or play a game.
8:30- The kids head to bed.
8:35-The parents eat a snack.
10:00-Reuns of The Office come on, we watch and laugh together
11:00-We go to bed and sleep! Its been a good day.
These times are really approximate. Some days I don't wake up until 8:00, so the day gets started a little later. All the same things are accomplished, just on a pushed-back schedule.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Well I only lost .6 pounds this week. That is . 6 pounds. Make sure you read it correctly. It stinks. It is not even worth posting. I am miffed and most angry with it. I know I need to move my body each day but when do you suggest I do that, mister scale? After the 4:00 am feeding? Yes, I reckon so. Well, we will have to see about that. I will keep plugging along with hopes to be out of maternity jeans before Henry starts school.