Monday, April 30, 2012
Friday, April 27, 2012
He lives in the Memphis area and is in good hands with his wife, our Aunt Babs and our cousin Hollye (who is a nurse) watching over him. My wonderful friend/ Byhalia neighbor is also the case management director at his hospital and she is watching him for me. We are so blessed to have such great friends and family to love us and our parents at times like these, when we again, don't live in the same town and not able to see to them like we desire. Please lift Bob up in your prayers if you will. He is a pretty sick little Daddy right now.
Thursday, April 26, 2012
This past weekend we headed to northeast Arkansas. We've been there twice in the last couple of months and we enjoy getting to see Abby, Randall and Henry. I think now Henry realizes he isn't going anywhere with me and is beginning to like me. Finally!! Poor thing doesn't know that in a couple of months he gets to stay with me for a week. After that he'll dislike me again. But that's ok, a week with Henry will be worth it.
We made the trip so that Stephen could preach at First Baptist Church in Leachville and share the vision of Delta Baptist Church. FBC Leachville is going to be one of our supporters and we couldn't be happier! Leachville was our first church to serve in, ( I use the term us lightly. He got paid, I just spent it) We have great memories of our years there. Our first married friends are there, we brought three of our children home there, and Stephen and I figured out how to be married there. Oh, the memories.
Not all of the memories are good. Some are bad. We hurt some feelings, and our feelings were hurt also. But when I walked in the church Sunday and saw the people that had meant so much to our family for so many years my heart was full. Full.
I've written a couple of times about how I feel about going to my home church in Ft. Smith. Oh, how I love to see the faces of all the people that were so important to my spiritual development. Looking in the faces and hugging the necks of the people in Leachville that loved Stephen and I through our humble beginnings of married life, married friends, church ministry and adulthood, well I just don't know what to say. My heart is full again just thinking about them.
I pray that each of you reading this have had a church where you have been shown Christ's love or you are in one now. If you aren't, please find a Bible believing, Bible preaching, loving, missional church in your area. You will be so very glad you did. If you need help finding one please let me know and I will do my best to help you find one in your area. Either leave a comment here or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
I think this is why he is moving up much sooner than expected. He loves to tell us his shapes, colors, numbers and sing all of his songs.The video is super dark because my den is super dark. You can still see the shapes and hear his sweet little voice though.
Look at his long legs?! I took him to the doctor last week for double ear infections and he measured 3 feet 2 inches. He is 2 feet from being eye to eye with me. That day will come sooner than I realize I think.
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
David and Daniel are 11 today!
I have been reliving 11 years ago all day today. So much so that I realized the shoes I wore today were the same ones I wore 11 years ago. Time for new shoes!
11 years ago was a hectic day full of dropping off, picking up, shopping and waiting and giving birth. I remember seeing their faces for the first time. Little bodies, 5lb 4oz, and 5lb 6oz, that were so cute, sweet and healthy. They were a month early and had no problems. We were in the hospital less than 48 hours. Such sweet faces, such sweet cries.
I remember the doctor didn't send me to recovery ( I had a c-section) because I had company that wanted to visit with me. It was strange I thought, but I loved having people to come see me and love on my little family. My little family that had just grown by 2 in the span of 4 minutes!
These two boys make me smile, laugh and thank the Lord daily. Their personalities are so much the same and so much different. They look so much alike and they look so different. The same but different. I wouldn't have it any other way. They fill my heart with joy.
Friday, April 20, 2012
She is such a princess. I remember when she was born Abby wrote on the blog that Anna added a softness to our home. And she has. She is sweet, spirited, girly, and a tomboy rolled up into one beautiful package.
The boys think she is spoiled, Stephen and I laugh and tell them girls are supposed to be spoiled and then we look at each other and smile, both knowing that what they are saying is so very true.
She is an absolute blessing. She is motivated, loves to help, enjoys school, reads all the time, acts like shes 13, and is loving and kind.
God blessed us with a real treasure eight years ago this morning. I will be forever grateful for His gift.
Wednesday, April 18, 2012
Samuel was at a D-Now weekend, so Stephen and I took Daniel, David and Anna to Heber Springs to trout fish. I have never been fishing before. I actually got my first fishing license right before we headed out of town. I wasn't real excited about going, but the kids could hardly wait!
Daniel caught the first fish and Anna soon followed. By the end of the day the 5 of us had caught 23 rainbow trout. I was so excited. Everyone got their limit but me, but I didn't mind. The kids had such a great time.
Our feet were covered in mud, many of us had fallen down because of it but it didn't dampen our spirits one bit. We had a great time! Now to celebrate with cake, ice cream and presents for the rest of the month!
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Photos through text kept me afloat this past month. Photos like this from Randall when he was single parenting Henry while I was with mama always made me smile. That man of mine is such a fun and attentive daddy. He literally drove down the highway from the in laws with Henry's Cars 4-wheeler on the big 4-wheeler trailer all strapped down like the real deal. Memories were made through this crazy time, memories we will store in our hearts forever. Some we will want to forget and some that we will want to cherish and laugh about for years to come. What a mighty God we serve, who loves us and gets us through the yucky times with joy and a little spring in our step.
Monday, April 16, 2012
Lesson 1: Mom was freezing us out in her first room. We were dressing warm just to sit in her room with her. The first night I stayed the night, I was free-zing! A nurse came in, saw me shivering and brought me, get this, a heated blanket. I was warm the rest of the night. It blessed my soul (it really warmed my soul too) to have a heated blanket. If you have to stay the night at the hospital, ask for a heated blanket.
Lesson 2: The nurses have access to popsicles. They don't always tell the patient they can have them, and most patients, even with the strictest dietary concerns can. The best thing is patients family members can have them too. They also will give you a coke. This is great for those of you that can eat and drink in hospitals. I, however, didn't partake of free popsicles or cokes. I can't seem to eat or drink where sick people have been. I tried. I spent quite a few dollars on Sonic drinks before I realized that I won't drink in a room.
Lesson 3: Dress to impress. We decided to dress nicely for the hospital. I originally thought we would only be at the hospital for 3-4 days, so I took 3 outfits for the hospital and the rest of my clothes were t-shirts, shorts and jeans to wear around mom's house. Needless to say when day 3 became day 11 I was re-wearing all my clothes. But I will say this was the best decision we made. It seems like we were taken seriously, and as if we "had it together" by the hospital staff. And we talked to many different members of hospital staff. We were in no way delussioned into thinking we knew what was going on, or had it all together, but I think it was easier to be taken seriously when we dressed up. My baby sister brought me clothes when she came back into town so the last week I was not in repeat mode. I love that girl.
Lesson 4: The best bathrooms are in admitting. The admitting offices aren't open very much of the day and there aren't many sick people in that area. Therefore, these are the best bathrooms. I give credit to Aunt Janet for this one. Great tip!
Lesson 5: If you are on the 4th floor and can walk the stairs, do so. The elevators are slow and the exercise is good for you. If you are on the 5th floor take the elevator. I couldn't have made it to the 5th floor!
Lesson 6: This was a hard lesson for me to learn. The nurses really like it if you use the call light instead of bugging them at the nurses desk. The nurses' chief concern is the patient, not the patient's family. It is best for the patient to hit the call button if she needs something.
Ok, I'm through. No more hospital talk! My next post will be about birthday week!
Thursday, April 12, 2012
Mom was discharged from the hospital last Friday afternoon. She is staying at Aunt Janet's house this week so that someone will be close by at night and so she won't be alone too awful much. She is glad to be there and Aunt Janet is glad to be taking care of her. She has friends coming to stay with her and keep her company throughout the day. I am so thankful for them.
Mom was in the hospital 16 days. The first 12 days were terribly tough, but the last 4 were pretty great. I went home for a couple of days while she was there because my kids were having their school testing and I needed to be there for a bit of support.
I am known to not like hospitals. I dislike them VERY much. I don't like the smell, the tools, the paper towels, the food, or the plastic cups. It is just too much for me to take. I am a gagger and I gag the most at hospitals.
I remember being told from several church members that I needed to visit the hospital and nursing homes more, that it would be "good" for me. Well, let me tell you that I spent several days at the hospital. I was there, smelling, seeing, touching, feeling. It did not do me any "good". Because I was there for my mom, I endured and did it with pleasure, want to, love and devotion. But I do not feel that I have a ministry to the sick and infirm. Oh my! I don't know how many times I repeated that sentence during those 16 days. Just as not all people are supposed to be teaching children in Awana clubs at church or Sunday School, I am not to be ministering to the patients in hospitals. Sure, I will visit. And I pray that people will stand up and be listeners in their church's Awana clubs. But not all of us are teachers and not all of us are ministers to the sick. (Off soapbox)
I prayed for God to take my weakness (gagging) and give me His strength. And He did. I am a testimony of what God can and will do. I stood beside my mom's ICU bed for many hours holding her hand, trying to comfort her confused spirit. I would lay my head on her shoulder that was draped with tubes carrying medicine and breath for her. I talked to her, cried on her, and prayed to God both silently and aloud. I never thought she wouldn't make it, I was just pained because the situation seemed to have no end. The doctor kept saying 2-3 days. he said it everyday for about 4 days, I finally stopped asking.
I went home for a day and a half and when I went back to the hospital she was in her own room. I rejoiced! Aunt Janet and Mamaw had stayed with her while I was gone. I know they loved being with her without a bunch of others all around!
I spent the days at the hospital with mom, made friends with the nursing staff, and did NOT conquer my disdain for eating in hospitals.
Abby was in Jonesboro on and off while mom was in the hospital, because HELLO, SHE HAS A JOB! I usually don't call her during the day, we just text. But during these trying days when I called, she always answered. I texted and she always texted back. It was nice to bounce ideas, happenings, and tears off of her.
There was one afternoon I came close to losing it with a nurse. I guess I had had enough of the hospital experience. Abby and I talked and made a game plan. We executed it nicely and things went well. It was a time that Abby and I got to be grown-ups. Prior to that, we let the doctors and nurses make all the decisions, as we should have. We realized through that experience that family is everything. Family trumps hurt feelings, unkind words, and unsaid apologies.
Sometimes we get caught up in the moment and things may not go as we liked but at the end of the day family should win. Always!
Thank you for your prayers and concern for mom and for the rest of us. We loved the Sonic cokes, snacks, gifts, and visits. It made our days go by so much faster and better. The Lord answered our prayers in His timing and what was best for Mom. We are so grateful.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
We were at Aunt Janet and Uncle Mike's house this Easter weekend and Aunt Janet was so sweet to let us use her kitchen to dye our 3 dozen eggs. And to let us use her refrigerator to store them in. her frig may never smell the same again!
I spent Easter morning with Mom at Aunt Janet's. The kids and Stephen went to church and then joined us for lunch. I missed being at church (It makes 2 years in a row. Last year Daniel was sick.) but enjoyed being with Mom for the last time for a while.
Monday, April 9, 2012
Sunday, April 8, 2012
We came home and dyed eggs. He loved telling me what colors he wanted. He was most unhappy with me for stopping to take this photo. He was fussing at me, as you can see. I have loved the Easter fun we have had this year. This is Henry's third Easter and a very memorable one for sure.